Not everyone can be a supermodel but anyone can and should be a role model. It is so much more powerful! I’d really love to see a magazine cover one day where the title reads “Role Model of The Year” instead of the nonsense of who is “best dressed” or has “the hottest” this or that. I don’t watch TV or any form of media for that very reason. I don’t want to feed my mind that kind of junk food. And neither should you.
It’s never too late to grow into the person you were born to be.
All actions we take are preceded by thoughts. In between the thought and the action is a decision. You need to be conscious that you are making decisions all day every day. What you eat, what you watch, what you read, how you speak, how you dress etc. One of the biggest choices and probably the most important is the choice of ‘blaming’ or ‘claiming’.
Many potentially GREAT people don’t realise their brilliance simply because they get stuck in the past. You can stay angry at someone who hurt you or you can get busy living an amazing life. You cannot do both.
I love this quote:
“If I’d known I’d live this long I’d have taken better care of myself.” –Eubie Blake
Life is about the relationships we keep: the relationship we have with ourselves, our partner, our family, our colleagues at work, our friends and even strangers. These relationships can either be positive and fruitful or negative and toxic.
You’ve probably heard the adages: “Surround yourself with people who lift you higher,” (Oprah) and, “The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviours, so choose friends who have healthy habits,” (Dan Buettner).
Identifying and eliminating toxic relationships from your life is important because just like particular food can ruin your diet and health, a particular person can also ruin your health and your happiness. So what are the tell tale signs of a toxic relationship?
- People who are jealous of you
- People who are competitive with you
- People who betray your confidence/trust
- People who focus on your faults
- People who always complain
- People who repetitively break their promises
- People who are self-absorbed or self-entitled
- People who contact you only when they need something.
These types of people will drain your energy and if you can’t avoid them altogether, make sure you only give them your minimal energy and time. Remember, relationships take up a lot of our emotional energy and wellbeing, so when you surround ourselves with toxic people, you are less likely to reach your potential. On the other hand, if you surround yourself with like-minded, positive, caring, honest and interesting people, being happy becomes effortless.
I recently read an interesting article that identifies some toxic and abusive behaviours in relationships and how to better handle them. Here’s the link if you are interested: https://www.facebook.com/louiselhay/posts/10152112891499750.