Most of us in the corporate world spend a lot of time in front of a computer or in meetings, sitting, analyzing and strategizing; i.e. living in our head. But the source of creativity, passion and the ability to connect with people by displaying empathy does not come from the head. It comes from the body. Whether you are a mortgage broker, a settlement paralegal or a café barista you must get of your head to make a connection with your customers and IMPORTANTLY with your family. So how do you get out of your head and into your body? Firstly….
5 Signs You’re Living in Your Head:
- You don’t notice beauty around you. Whether it is the blue sky, chirping birds, flowers in the garden or the sparkle in your children’s eye.
- Your breathing is shallow. Breathing is an instant barometer of your thoughts and feelings.
- You feel like you are always on the edge of anxiety or unhappiness or worse still, numbness.
- You are all talk, no action. You sign up for the gym but don’t go or buy recipe books but don’t cook.
- You focus on consuming and not creating. Whether it is media to fatten the brain or food to fatten the body. These days everyone wants to eat but nobody wants to grow or cook food. Everyone wants to read or watch but not many want to write or produce.
“When you spend too much time in your head, you check out of the present moment and waste precious energy feeding your ego. You worry too much about what people think of you.”
What Causes Us to Live in Our Head?
- When feelings hurt too much or we have unexpressed emotions, we retreat into our head.
- Too much use of technology and social media. This is by far the most insidious.
- Work that requires sitting and thinking for long periods.
- Not enough socialising.
10 Ways to get out of your head and Into Your body
- Exercise and Sports. Second to dancing, this is a instant way to get out of your head and into your body.
- Mindful Breathing and meditation. Read ‘Just Breath’ by Dan Brule. Life changing!
- Making Love. (Beware pornography. Studies show that it ruins intimacy).
- Connecting with nature and gardening.
- Hugging a friend or family member.
- Getting a massage.
- Doing the things you fear.
- Listening to music and dancing.
- Taking an afternoon nap.
- Cooking and/or eating food that is full of flavour and scent.
Case Study: The Secret to MSA’s Success
Recently in an interview I was asked how MSA National achieves such an amazing service culture. I flatly ignored operational efficiency and responded with “We get people out of their head and into their heart”. Empathy for the customer can only come from the heart. To do that, we employ a Chief Fitness Officer and a full time masseuse who both promote exercise, stretching, and other activities that get people into their bodies. We think that is the single most important reason why we have a culture of empathy and humility. And to us all performance is driven by culture.